I wouldn't worry about it, castlemage. That was just advice, not a rebuke.
What you asked for here was really what everyone on the site is looking for. You could have asked for World Peace or a winning lottery ticket.
If you're looking to find an active game, the best way to do that at the moment is to go to the Current Stories lists, and go category-by-category. Once the Last Update date is more than a week or two old, you're DONE in that category. There might be 8 more pages of listings, but you're
*DONE*. Trust me.
Relax. We're all friends here. Poke around, and you'll find what you're looking for.
Well, maybe. World peace is elusive, but occasionally people *do* win the lottery.

Happy hunting.